A SERIOUS TEXT ABOUT THE FUN CALLED LIFE
. I was so touched the other day. I am in a group on Facebook, a closed group, where women in the middle of life can vent their thoughts. Many...
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I was so touched the other day. I am in a group on Facebook, a closed group, where women in the middle of life can vent their thoughts. Many times it is wise, hard-working women, mothers of grown children who write. They live alone or in some kind of relationship. The woman in midlife 50+. She is also often in the middle of menopause.
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A woman wrote about her relationship. How desperate she was. She described the situation. She was so alone in her relationship. Never a hug, a look, an embrace. Just practical things. She didn't just feel alone. She felt that life was over. Should it be like this now, she thought.
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She received many wise answers from her "sisters" in the group. We all recognize ourselves, both women and men. You MUST break out of that loneliness in a duality. Someone wrote that she must love herself first, before she can be loved. But NO, absolutely not, I say. But you must find people around you who love you. Nice friends. Maybe a new love. That builds you up. Which shows that you are worthy of warmth, touch, attention. That says you are beautiful. You deserve to live a full life. Getting HELP to love yourself has to be the most loving thing.
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You are beautiful. You are wonderful. You are fine just the way you are. You deserve to be loved. Not just in words but in action. Warm hugs, start kissing each other again. Play, fool around, plan for the future - tomorrow, next week, a year from now. Show each other tenderness every day. Give each other touch. A caress on the cheek, a warm embrace in the middle of the night. Warm eyes and soft hands cure a lot of loneliness.
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Someone wrote that it felt shameful to be alone, to feel lonely in your relationship. It must be our generation, I think. Who still feel so much shame. I did not raise my son to feel shame. On the contrary. Put the problems on the table and we will help each other.
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